Not something I usually choose to blog about, for I made this blog to specifically help others in their journey through fitness and health. But something has really been on my mind lately and I really feel the need to share it with you all.
We ladies spend a lot of time, money, and passion on our appearance. We love to read a good blog/magazine what ever it may be, about what the newest and hottest style is. Or a product that makes your face look smoother, weight loss tips, diets, exercises that burns the most fat, on and on and on. We woman care a lot about our bodies, how great we look in yoga pants, and over all feeling better as we change our life style to a healthier one, but of coarse we ALL love cup cakes. I do not care who you are. I will not believe you if you say you don’t love cup cakes. ESPECIALLY when a boy break our hearts, we turn to something even better … JUNK FOOD. Yes, food will always win over stupid boys.
But something we Ladies seem to be forgetting in life is that not only should we be trying to have healthier skin, bodies, hair, nails, etc, what about a healthy heart, mind, and soul??? Why is this not in Magazines, why do we not see or hear of it more often? Having a positive and happy heart is such a great start to fitness and health. Who the heck are we if all we do is look at another woman and think of nothing but negative things to say? Who are we if we live in an unhealthy negative mindset? It causes stress, and stress leads to unhappiness, sleepless nights, weight gain, and depression. So how can we even do this crazy thing called “life” with all that nonsense going on? No one, or no obstacle in life can determine your happiness except YOU! Its all your choice. Its crazy to think how much control our minds have huh?
Sadly, the majority of our stress comes from our past. Some of us have been through WAY worse than others. Some have been through the worst of the worst in life, but please tell me how stressing about the past has helped your future??? EXACTLY, leave it in the past. Only an idiot can trip over something that's behind them (I’ve been an idiot one too many times). People have hurt me and people have hurt you. It seems to be unfortunately rare for those who hurt us to apologize. So how and why should we forgive someone who isn't the least bit sorry? Well don’t do it for them, do it for yourself. FORGIVE THEM. Why? because you deserve the peace in your heart. You have cried over them, stayed up all night in anger about them, and guess what? You are not even on their mind? They are controlling you with no effort. Silly to think about really. But yes, we are woman and we have all made that mistake. And in result of people hurting us, we pay it forward in a negative way by being so cruel to someone else, and it just keeps going on and on.
So how do we stop it? How do we help ourselves? We have all this unnatural medication in this world today to “help” us. Anxiety, Depression, you name it. Doctors are making millions. “Here is a pill, take it every day and your problems will go away”… Am I dissing anyone that's taking medication? Not at all. I've been on a lot of them myself actually if you want the truth. Until you realize that your mind has so much more control than those pills do, it will never go away for ever. I hope no one gets offended by this but I say it in a blunt way because that one sentence someone once told me “Your mind has more power than those pills you're taking daily.” was LIFE changing. And that person who told me that was not even trying to help me out in the least bit. BUT LITTLE DID SHE KNOW, HAHA. Why didn’t the doctor tell me this? He could have helped me a long time ago.
I am not in to putting people on blast on social media, So I have blacked out names because my point here is to not call out certain individuals but to make my point here of how we woman have become to one another these days. Skimming through some of the comments I receive on a weekly basis here are just some recent ones….
This is what woman think of when they see another human… Another human they have never even spoke to. It really does blow my mind sometimes. Did it use to hurt me? Yes, but once I became happy and positive myself, things flipped and I began to hurt for THEM. Yes!!! when I read this stuff, it makes me feel sorry for them. What are they going through in life that has made them so harsh/negative/cold hearted. And yes, I will say I have been rude to others myself, we all have. But they hurt me first so I got them back. Nope I didn’t get them back, I actually just put myself on their level… LOW, THE LEVEL IS LOW LADIES. Which after all, when I sat and looked at all the negative comments and all the positive comments, the positive out weighed the negative by a long shot. And most of the time that is how it goes, its just OUR choice which side to look at, the negative? Or the positive?
One thing I really love about life is that not everyone is short, muscular, blond hair, blue eyes, loves to tumble and has the name Mackenzie.(explaining myself) because that's me, I don’t want every other woman on this earth to look EXACTLY like me with the EXACT same dreams and goals in life. And you're you, NOT me. I love how different we all are. I mean there would seriously be no point in posting a selfie on social media anymore. You would already know exactly what it would look like by just looking in the mirror. We would actually have no social media because you would be doing the SAME thing I’m doing so why should I keep up with you and vice versa? And those goals and dreams we work so hard for daily would be nothing if we all achieved the same thing. Could you imagine a world with no goals? Life would be so pathetic and boring. No excitement or interest in any way. That's why we as WOMAN need to learn that your goals are not mine, your interests are not mine, and mine are not yours, and THAT is what makes life so incredibly beautiful. Not only will uplifting one another make us feel better as a individual, but it will make someone else feel better and it will all just keep going back and forth feeding off of one another. What is the point of saying such nasty things about one another, did it help you in any way? Did it help them in any way? Uplifting one another brings YOU up….
So yes, by the end of this blog it all goes back to fitness and health. If you are wanting to change your life and become more fit and healthy, start with your mind. Clean out your heart, fill it up with happiness and positiveness because you CAN'T go forward if you're stuck in the pond of sinking sand full of negativity. Your fitness and health journey will fail. You will not only feel better to get out of bed in the morning and hop on that treadmill, you will take stress out of your life and add many years to it. If this blog inspires one person to change their mindset and become more healthy minded, I have achieved everything I wanted to by typing it.
-XOXO Mackenzie McKee.